When do words we use become meaningless

I have focused much on words for the past few years...whether this be in acquiring new linguistic talents, or the words I use while speaking with others.  It occurred to me there are many times I have been disappointed by the words of another person.  It could be the intention of the words but lack of follow through that left me dismayed.  Or feeling I was important through what was said, only to realize I was 'a dime a dozen' based on the same sentiment being used toward many, and I was just a number in the end.  It is my hope this year to convey my words in a constructive manner.  The use of my words should be intentional, but also from the heart rather than forced.

There are many words I may use to emote how I am feeling, what I am feeling, or how I may see things.  For some, I may use certain nicknames that are strictly reserved for them.  For others, it may be a saying, a quote, a word that conveys a previous moment in time that we only know the origins.

But it is the words I may share with those I love that should never be shared with others.  And maybe this is not recognized by others, but to me, I don't appreciate these words, nicknames, and/or symbols being used for the general public.

I don't walk around calling everyone 'hun' like Flo from Mel's Diner.  First off, I cannot stand that term 'hun', and see it as more of a derogatory term due to every jerk-wad male who thinks he owns the world, and all those in it.  Coming from an older woman, the term 'hun' may mean a sign of affection, or that she sees me as young, and therefore someone she can talk to as if I was her child...no thank you.  I don't call people by terms of endearment unless I feel that comfortable with them that I know they will see my intention that this is, in fact, reserved for them alone.  I call my guy 'babe'...I don't go around calling other people that; it is reserved for him (and maybe the off chance I call my kids that).  I would never want this nickname to be used in such a general way that when he hears it, it no longer makes him feel special...Same thing with symbols...I may use the smiley symbol of :) with friends, but the symbol of ;-) is used only for the person I am dating.  It is a sign of affection to me.

The words we use toward others, for others, about others can be a source of inspiration, or a source of contention.  I would rather have my words, and my actions, be a source of intentional, purposeful, meaningful source for those I love, and those I know, rather than feeling they are being assaulted when I open my mouth. We only have a short time here on earth with those we love in the grand retrospect of the grandeur of space, time, and history.  I would rather have my words be used to uplift someone, help someone, offer courage when needed than have mindless dribble.